When to Send Save the Dates and Wedding Invitations

Invitations feel like a design project, but they are really a scheduling tool. Send them too early and people forget to respond. Send them too late and guests cannot book travel or childcare. A simple timeline helps you protect the date, collect answers on time, and leave enough room to finalize rentals, catering and seating.

Invitation timing at a glance

These ranges are typical, and your guest travel needs may shift them.

Save the dates: what they do and who gets one

A save the date is a heads-up, not a request for a response. Its job is to protect the date on calendars, so include your names, the date and the city, and a link to your wedding website if you have one. You do not need to have the venue final to send one, but you do need to be sure of the date. Mail one to everyone you plan to invite, and avoid sending one to someone you are not sure you can invite, because it creates an obligation.

Send them earlier if many guests must travel, if the wedding falls on a holiday weekend, or if you are marrying in peak season. Chicago-area summer and early fall weekends fill up quickly with other events, and hotels do too.

Formal invitations: timing and what to include

Mail invitations eight to ten weeks before the wedding. That gives guests time to plan, and it still leaves a month for RSVPs and follow-up. Include the date, time, location with address, dress code if relevant, the RSVP deadline and how to respond. Add a link to your website for the schedule, hotel information, parking and gift registry.

If your reception is at a different place from the ceremony, include both addresses. Mention whether the event is indoors or outdoors, since guests choose shoes and clothes accordingly. Put the RSVP deadline on every piece of the suite so no one misses it.

RSVP deadline and the rest of the schedule

Pick an RSVP deadline three to four weeks before the wedding. Many caterers and rental companies need a final count two weeks before, so you want a buffer to chase late responses. See wedding RSVP deadlines and follow up for scripts. Use how to cut a wedding guest list if you need a second wave and a waiting list.

Work backward from the deadline when you book printing. Allow time for design, proofs, printing and addressing. Rush fees are common, so many planners place the order about four weeks before the mailing date.

Mailing timeline

Timing by wedding type

Adjust the standard timeline when guests travel or the date is busy.

If your date is closer than these windows, shorten each step and send digital versions. Digital invitations arrive instantly and cost less, but print is still common for formal weddings.

Your invitation timeline

What to put on the wedding website

Your website is the quiet workhorse of the invitation suite, because it lets you keep the printed pieces simple. Include the schedule, venue addresses and maps, parking and transit tips, hotel information, dress code, registry links, an RSVP form if you want one and a short note about kids or plus-ones. Update it whenever plans change, and put the web address on both your save the date and your invitation.

For guests who are older or less comfortable online, include a phone number or email for questions, and consider a printed insert with the key details. A good rule is that any guest should be able to find the time, the address and the RSVP deadline within a few seconds.

Chicago-area notes

Many Chicago-area weddings have guests flying in or driving from neighboring states, so save the dates deserve extra lead time. If you expect guests to stay downtown or near a suburban venue, mention hotel blocks and parking early. Weather is a factor, too: for outdoor ceremonies, mention shoes and layers, and if the date falls in a winter month, add a note about coat check and snow plans. If your wedding coincides with a major sporting or convention weekend, check hotel availability before you mail anything.

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